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New From metropolitan Decay: stay naked foundation as well as Concealer, as well as Vice Lip Chemistry

Posted on November 2, 2022 by ftzys

At metropolitan Decay, nudity rules.
Keep your underclothing on, please. even though metropolitan Decay wants you to stay Naked, I would strongly desire you against going totally commando, since hello! — air conditioning is no joke!

Stay Naked, a new collection offered meow from UD, includes a liquid foundation, concealer as well as sheer lip tints.

STAY naked WEIGHTLESS liquid FOUNDATION, $39

What is this — blood magic? since one layer of metropolitan Decay’s new medium-coverage, pore-blurring stay naked foundation hides unequal pigmentation on my cheeks without concealing my freckles. It’s precisely the type of sheer, barely-there protection I love, as well as even though the matte surface is juuuuust starts out being a tad as well matte for my taste (I’m a dewy kinda gal), it mellows out over the program of about an hour into something much more satiny as well as natural looking — like an ever-so-slightly perfected version of natural skin. It’s one of those base products that looks much better as well as much better as the day goes on.

I evaluated the complying with shades of the concealer as well as foundation, as well as the closest foundation match to my skin is 51WY, although best now it’s a bit light for me since I’m tanner than typical at the moment. The concealers I tried are waaaay lighter than I’d typically wear, however I tried them anyway to see if I liked the structure as well as finish. By the way, I’m an NC42 in MAC.
If you’ve ever tried as well as liked Estée Lauder double wear Light, you’ll most likely like stay Naked, too. It extremely much looks as well as feels like that underrated foundation hero, however UD’s is available in a BILLION different undertones for cool, warm as well as olive tones, in addition to 50 different colors.

Site note: The Fenty impact is still to life as well as well!

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STAY naked WEIGHTLESS liquid FOUNDATION

Doesn’t oxidize

Lightweight as well as breathable

Touchy pump! (Mine squirts stuff halfway across my desk if I’m not careful.)

I’m a MAC NC42 as well as wear 51WY.

I like to apply it with a synthetic buffing clean for the most natural coverage.

Looks like genuine skin in all kinds of lighting.

Long-wearing as well as sticks to skin like glue, even if you rub at it aggressively.

You’ll most likely likewise such as this if you like the sheerness of a BB cream, tinted moisturizer, or even something like MAC deal with as well as Body, however you just want a bit much more protection (but not full-on opacity). I believe it’s much more like an intense tinted moisturizer — like, if you took Laura Mercier’s traditional TM as well as added a few drops of a full-coverage concealer to it.

STAY naked CORRECTING CONCEALER, $29

Along with the foundation, UD likewise just recently introduced a new line of complementary liquid stay naked Concealers. like the new base, stay naked Concealer is lightweight as well as long-wearing with a matte finish, however the protection is totally opaque, with high pigment on par with full-coverage baddies like Tarte shape Tape. just for fun (and for old time’s sake), I packed it on below my eyes as well as was wowed by the truth that it refused to work out into my fine lines as well as did not look heavy at all.

I’m using the foundation in 51WY, concealer in 50WY, as well as like kid Vice Chemistry

While the surface is a bit as well matte for my taste at the moment (I choose the satiny surface of Kevyn Aucoin Supernatural liquid concealer since the subtle luminescence is much more forgiving on dry skin), very natural is still a beautiful concealer with a surface that’s even much more skin-like than my previous full-coverage holy grails — comprise permanently HD as well as Sephora Future Gel.

It doesn’t move, is full coverage, as well as is available in 25 shades.

UD, provide your cosmetics chemists a raise since they’re doing something right!

By the way, I just mixed a bit 51WY with MAC Pinklite Strobe cream as well as buffed everything over with a Zoeva 104 Buffer Brush. then I dotted a touch of Kevyn Aucoin Etheral concealer on top… When I looked at my skin in a magnifying mirror afterward, I should have mumbled, “Damn, that’s good,” about 10 times.

VICE LIP CHEMISTRY, $22 each

Last up in the stay naked collection are the Vice Lip Chemistry long lasting Glassy Tints ($22 each). These non-sticky, feather-light liquid tints begin off as shiny as well as glossy however fade to a long-wearing matte tint that lasts about three hours on me. They’re essentially dupes of the MAC Versicolours, however much much more moisturizing.

Urban Decay Vice Lip Chemistry
Vice Lip Chemistry swatches
If your lips are deeply pigmented, FYI, mine are, too, as well as even though the shades look different when you very firstapply them, they all ultimately end up appearing like the exact same red stain. *shrugs*

I do like these for the intense wetness as well as ease-of-use, however really, you might quickly get that from any type of lip balm.

Your friendly community charm addict,

Karen

P.S. TGIF! ?

Practical stuff I Like: The new Baylis & Harding Goodness natural Hand washes at Target, a budget Beauty’s version of Molton brown

Posted on November 1, 2022 by ftzys

fancy (but totally affordable) hand washes at Target from across the pond
What song do you sing when you’re washing your hands? Normally, I sing “Happy Birthday” to Keanu Reeves two or three times to keep it simple (because Keanu ?), but sometimes I veer into prince territory (“She wore a raspberry beret, the kind you get at a secondhand store. Raspberry beret, and if it was warm she wouldn’t wear much more. Raspberry beret. I think I love her.”)

I would wear his blue suit with clouds in a heartbeat to Trader Joe’s.

’tis a sign of the (pandemic) times when one gets their thrills from testing different hand soaps… Seriously, the bar for my amusement is set so low now!

So…I like to try new hand soaps, and right now I’m into Baylis & Harding Goodness natural Handwashes, a new line of vegan liquid hand soaps at Target.

They smell fancy! The scents have notes, base notes, middle notes — the whole shebang — and they lather up into big, luscious bubbles. think Molton Brown, but at a drugstore price.

They’re made in the UK and don’t contain parabens, silicones and dyes. The suggested retail price for a huge 16.9-oz. bottle is $5.99 (although here in the Bay Area, apparently it’s $7.39).

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From Target.com:

“Baylis & Harding Goodness Oud, Cedar & Amber hand wash is inspired by nature with carefully blended plant-based formulas. using only the finest, natural and organic extracts and essential oils to deliver a 98% naturally derived formulation that is vegan, 95% biodegradable, packaged within a 100% PCR (post-consumer recycled) bottle. Dermatologist approved (mild & gentle) and made in England with love, Baylis & Harding’s Goodness natural hand wash line is also dye free, paraben free, silicone free and uses a mild coconut-derived surfactant as an alternative to SLES, making it SLS/SLES/ales free.”

The different scents are surprisingly complex, like you’re having a perfume experience every times you wash your hands. For example, Oud Cedar and Amber, one of my faves, smells like an expensive, handsome man driving you to work in his new car with leather seats. and the rose and Geranium instantly transports you to teatime in an English garden blooming at the height of spring. So nothing basic, scent wise, here.

Scent notes:

Oud, Cedar & Amber: Woody and aromatic with a blend of citrus fruits with herbal notes and strong woody undertone.

Lemongrass & Ginger: top and heart notes of ginger and lemongrass blended with black pepper, citrus and bergamot. Nutmeg and cinnamon add a spicy undertone.

Rose & Geranium: A zesty top note of lemon blended with rose, geranium and rich amber.

Sea Kelp & Peppermint: top notes of peppermint, green tea and sea salt, combined with sea kelp and grounded by base notes of cedar and amber.

The bevy of bubbles rinses quickly, leaving your paws squeaky clean and lightly scented. good stuff, and super affordable, too.

Pack your bags (literally)

Thanks guys for sharing where you live and why you love it yesterday in the comments. I really enjoyed it! Apparently, I’ve been talking non-stop about leaving California enough that El Hub thinks I’m pretty serious about it. and ya know what? I think I am. I know it’s not going to happen right THIS SECOND, but I’d like to leave within the next few years. I don’t think I can endure many more fire seasons without turning into a walking ball of anxiety.

Not that anything right now is normal anywhere, but fire season here, on top of the pandemic, is working my already frayed nerves. like today, I wanted to take Connor to play in the park, but there are two big fires within 20 miles of us (the LNU complex fire and the point Reyes Wildfire), and the air quality is poor. It smells like a campfire outside.

Also, on my to-do list this weekend: packing our go-bags in case we have to evacuate. super uncomfortable, but it has to be done, because you just never know living here.

I’ve been using these two lists I found online as guidelines:

Do you think it would be silly to set aside some camping gear? I keep thinking about where we’d go if we had to evacuate, because I just don’t know. everyone we know has been isolating themselves with their families. I guess we could pitch our tent in my parent’s backyard? I have absolutely no idea.

With that…I really don’t want to leave you on a weird note, I swear! things are currently not dire where I am (knocks on wood). We’re fine. I would just rather be prepared than get caught totally off guard.

I’m pretty happy all things considered. ? just happy to be here, healthy with my family and a roof over my head.

Take care of yourself, k? and have a good Friday.

Your friendly neighborhood beauty addict,

Karen

P.S. TGIF!

Sundays With Tabs the Cat, makeup as well as appeal blog Mascot, Vol. 586

Posted on October 29, 2022 by ftzys

When Ryan Seacrest phone calls you at noon on new Year’s Eve as well as pleads you to fly to nyc before the sphere drops so you can fill in for a last-minute cancellation by Justin Timberlake in the huge show, if you’re the incomparable, indefatigable Tabs the cat, you make it happen, even if it means chartering a personal jet.

In the enjoyment business, Tabs had a track record as a fixer. He was the feline you called when the stakes were high as well as there was a crisis, as well as you needed somebody of skill as well as integrity to repair it — somebody who might dazzle a crowd at a moment’s notice without any type of practice.

Most years, Tabs favored to sound in the new year by staying regional as well as celebrating with his Marin region friends…

But there were a few years, like 2014, when he was needed elsewhere.

It’s difficult to believe that last year was his last new Year’s with us… It’ll be different celebrating the begin of a new decade without him. ?

Miss you, buddy. like you forever. delighted new Year. ?

Your friendly community appeal addict,

Karen

9 reasons to love Berets

Posted on October 26, 2022 by ftzys

A beret is always a good idea.
1. They camouflage cray-cray hair

A beret instantly hides unruly baby hair so you don’t walk around looking like a mad scientists who hasn’t slept in days.

Added bonus: If the thought of brushing your mane sounds exhausting, a beret is your best friend! just tuck those unruly strands underneath a chic beret.

2. They make great pop songs

Prince wrote a song about a raspberry beret found at a secondhand store. Can you imagine Raspberry Beret being something like Raspberry bucket Hat or Raspberry Newsboy Cap or Raspberry Beanie? I don’t think so!

I would completely wear that cloud suit.

3. Cats love them!

Whether they’re wearing them, sleeping on them or attempting to tear them apart with their claws (ahem, *Rosie*), cats certainly love berets.

Goodness gracious, he certainly was a beautiful beast!
4. Berets effortlessly work with your favorite bold lip

Berets and bold lips are purrfection. this one is Chanel Eclosion, by the way, from the Spring-Summer 2021 collection.

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Not a Raspberry Beret, but still a beret nonetheless!
5. No ears required!

Unlike earrings, glasses or a face mask, berets doesn’t rely on your ears for support (really, our ears are doing so much these days), so rejoice in your ear freedom as you jauntily place a beret atop your head.

6. An equal-opportunity hat

Both ladies and gents wear berets, so if your significant other has one you’re fond up, take note — it’s completely up for grabs!

7. A hat with history

The beret has long graced the heads of numerous renowned individuals throughout history, and they’ve often been symbols of revolution.

A few beautiful berets to consider…

Halogen wool blend Beret, $29 — There’s a red one that’s always sold out, but mark my words, one day it shall be mine.

Brixton Lennon Beret, $21.97 — I love the blush color and the gold trim

Eugenia Kim Catarina, $227.50 (!) — cat ears and pearls, what much more could one want in a beret?

8. well-known people wear them…

Which may or may not be a plus, ha ha ha! fun fact: Ernest Hemingway, cat fancier and novelist, liked berets.

9. You can have a beret for every mood

Depending on the material and size of said beret, you can either go chic and minimalist; or big, floppy and bold. There’s a beret for every occasion.

Your friendly neighborhood charm addict,

Karen

Makeup and appeal blog Monday Poll, Vol. 624

Posted on October 19, 2022 by ftzys

So…what is the Monday Poll?

Excellent question! It isn’t, in contrast to its name, an actual poll, like with little clicky buttons. It’s just a list of five a lot more or less random questions I’ve been posting on this blog every Monday morning for the past quadrillion years (since 2007). I love reading your answers, and it helps me get my week off to a good start. ?

Welcome to the Quarantine edition of the Monday Poll!

1. Are you an vital worker?

In the larger scheme of the pandemic, no. but here at home I’m essential, considering that someone needs to remember to feed all the coworkers! I’m also the main person stopping the youngest human child from going absolutely and completely feral.

2. how lots of drinks have you had considering that the quarantine started?

I’ve had a couple of hard apple ciders with dinner, but I may or may not be *this close* to day-drinking on the daily now.

3. If you have pets/children/other dependents, are they driving you bonkers?

Not quite yet (but close!). Rosie has taken to shredding the painted kitchen doorjamb with her claws, but that’s about it. Connor has been pretty easygoing as long as we stick to our daily schedule. If we deviate from it, though, all bets are off!

4. have you picked up any new hobbies?

Does trying to contact a real live human being at the unemployment office count?

5. any special occasions you’ve missed (or will miss) during the quarantine?

A couple trips and events have been postponed. My daddy also turned 70 this past weekend, so we packed up the 4Runner with our camping chairs, camp table, snacks and drinks, and a portable 5-gallon toilet bucket, and celebrated by driving out to their house in the east Bay for a social distancing backyard birthday party. There were no hugs exchanged, unfortunately, but we got to chat, sing delighted Birthday, and explore their stunning backyard (they have so lots of fruit trees!).

6. What’s your quarantine meal?

All the baked things… It’s funny, I bake a lot more now than I did when I was working at the bakery.

Sunday funday

We’ve been going a little stir crazy lately, so we took to the terrific outdoors yesterday to get some of our wiggles out at one of our favorite hiking spots in Novato, Mt. Burdell. It borders miles and miles of open space, and it’s pretty remote as far as local hiking goes.

We came across a handful of other people, and when we did, everyone was good about staying at least six feet apart, unlike at Target the other day, which was generally a sh*t-show. When I left the store, I was shaking from the anxiety and shock at the rudeness I saw in the store. another pandemic adventure in the books!

Needless to say, I really needed to clear my head and get out of the house for a while, so we hiked, sat in some trees and enjoyed some local wildlife, which included enjoying a group of cows shading themselves near a creek, passing a couple of horses on the trail, enjoying a jackrabbit dashing down the hillside and a pair of deer bounding across a field of tall grass. also a turkey vulture took flight nearly directly over our heads, and IT WAS HUGE.

And the colors! The wildflowers are blooming ideal now, and the lawn is still green from the wintertime and spring rains, so the hills are dotted with bright orange, yellow and purple. It looks like a scene from the opening credit scores of The sound of Music.

If it weren’t for my allergies (achoo!) and ticks and snakes, I’d spin around the hillside every morning.

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Have a great Monday, friend. I hope something good happens to you soon.

Your friendly neighborhood appeal addict,

Karen

P.S. here are the questions to copy/paste with your answers in a comment. speak to ya soon.

1. Are you an vital worker?
2. how lots of drinks have you had considering that the quarantine started?
3. If you have pets/children/other dependents, are they driving you bonkers?
4. have you picked up any new hobbies?
5. any special occasions you’ve missed (or will miss) during the quarantine?
6. What’s your quarantine meal?

Smokey Eyes, Smudged Sparkly Eyeliner, and Why clean Tapered Blending Brushes Are Your BFF

Posted on October 16, 2022 by ftzys

Back in my pleased place!
Can I get a whoop-whoop from all my kindred spirits out there? — the makeup lovers who love rubbing freshly washed air-dried brushes ever-so-gently across their face, and love the fresh scent of those baby soft bristles? (Side note: If this describes you, I bet you also like sticking your face in clean laundry when it comes out of the dryer, too!)

So fresh, so clean
The reason you’re staring at this bevy of brushes is because I built a big-@ss pile of dirty brushes I’d been needing to wash because — gulp! — before Thanksgiving. Weeks ago, I tucked them away in a corner of my office and kinda forgot.

WHOOPS!

Well, I washed them yesterday because the bakery has been closed this week. Apparently, no one comes in this time of year because numerous people are still on their new Year’s diets, but folks start to fall off the wagon toward the end of January.

So…I finally had time to wash this big-@ss pile of brushes, and I also had time to do the makeup love of my life: SMOKEY EYES.

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I even put on falsies (I have a couple bundles on the outer corners).
Subtle sparkle on the lash lines
A few things…

I always forget what a difference clean tapered blending brushes can make. just in case you don’t know what I’m talking about, this is what they look like:

It’s useful to have a few around.
Whenever I’m doing smokey looks, clean tapered blending brushes are very, very handy… At the very least, I like to keep two or three on deck. having bristles that don’t have any eyeshadow on them is essential because the clean brush hairs pick up/remove excess eyeshadow while also softening any hard edges, so everything looks that much smoother and much more seamless.

Another thing? You’ll want to use the lightest touch while blending, and avoid pressing so hard that the bristles splay out (this just presses the powder into your pores, which makes it harder to sheer out your shadow). All you want is the very suggestion to lightly touch your lid.

Please don’t smash your brush head into your crease.
You know those pics of yourself online where you look crazy? YUP.
Last, but not least, always keep a clean tapered brush around for a last blending pass at the end. After you’ve done everything — base, blush, lips, the whole schebang — lightly blend your eyeshadow one last time, both on top of the lids and along the edges of the shadow to finalize the shape of your eye makeup.

It makes all the difference!

Makeup worn in this look

Face: Estée Lauder double wear foundation in Honey Bronze (base), wander charm Dualist Concealer in Tan (concealer), Chanel loose Powder in Dore, NARS desire (blush), MAC Nuanced Mineralize Skinfinish (highlighter on cheekbones and in the inner corner)

Eyes: NARS tinted Eyeshadow Base in Light (primer), Kevyn Aucoin Making Faces charm book EmphasEYES Bronze shade (crease); PYTBeauty No BS Eyeshadow palette (darkest charcoal shade on lid, matte brown mixed into crease with Bronze shade), urban Decay Oil Slick eyeliner (upper and lower lash lines), IT Cosmetics Superhero Mascara (upper and lower lashes), urban Decay falsies in HBIC babies (two of the smallest bundles on outer corners); MAC clear Brow Set, MAC Brun and Omega eyeshadows (brows)

Lips: Chanel Rouge Coco in Edith layered with MAC edge to edge Lip Pencil

Your friendly neighborhood charm addict,

Karen

Covergirl clean Fresh Skin Milk

Posted on October 14, 2022 by ftzys

great stuff!
I just discovered your new preferred base for no-makeup makeup days. as well as assumption what? It’s less than 10 bucks! (Technically, $9.99.)

Say, “Oh, hai,” to Covergirl clean Fresh Skin Milk, which for the official makeup record is a foundation, however performs like a sheer tinted moisturizing rock star.

Remember the restricted edition Hydrating glow Tints NARS did a couple years ago? clean Fresh Milk has the exact same impact (although Covergirl’s is thinner, like a liquid, as well as not a fluffy cream like the tints from NARS).

It doesn’t cover or disguise freckles or pimples — don’t expect to hide anything — however, the charm is its subtly. clean Fresh Milk quietly evens out your skin tone as it ever-so-slightly blurs pores. It somewhat amplifies your natural complexion, resulting in the look of freshly washed skin that’s dewy, however not shiny. For weekend no-makeup makeup, or for de-zombifying yourself before preschool drop-off in the morning, it’s lovely.

Swatch out…
From the official PR:

“Show off fresh, healthy skin with COVERGIRL clean Fresh Skin Milk Foundation. Formulated without formaldehyde, phthalates, parabens, sulfates as well as talc, this lightweight nourishing liquid foundation provides your skin the wetness increase it craves with a delicate infusion of coconut milk as well as soothing aloe. You’ll experience a glowing, dewy surface that lasts all the time long, blurring flaws as well as producing a much more even skin tone. get Sheer, buildable protection with 14 skillfully developed shade-adaptable formulas to match 99% of the skin tones as well as all undertones. Pro-tip: Make Skin milk Nourishing foundation your go-to for no makeup, makeup days.”

And yup, you guessed it. The mother in me likes that it’s so, so easy. I squirt a bit bit onto my fingertips as well as blend it into my combo oily/dry face. I like that I don’t have to buff it in with a clean or blend it with a sponge, because, yay! — it doesn’t streak. Instantly, with a few swipes, I’m finished with my base.

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I’m using shade Tan/Rich (I’m an NC42 in MAC).
Oh, as well as finest part? I don’t feel like it’s sitting on top of my skin. It feels like I’m not using anything at all.

Ingredients
The final word: a drugstore charm gem, if as well as only if you want very little base coverage.

Clean Fresh Skin Milk is available in 14 shades, as well as you can discover them at drugstores in Covergirl’s long-term collection.

Your friendly community charm addict,

Karen

Try This Hack for Bold, Bushy, Bangin’ brows

Posted on October 11, 2022 by ftzys

A hack for bold but natural-looking brows
Do you ever feel like your brows are out to get you? like they have an agenda? like they have ulterior motives?

I do. ? in some cases they absolutely refuse all orders, completely ignoring my requests, whether I come at them with a brow gel and/or an eyebrow brush.

Do you want fuller, (somewhat) natural-looking brows, but don’t want to have to spend an hour on it and use a ton of product?

If you answered “yes,” then this brow hack is for you! ?

I just started doing this and have gotten some good feedback on my brows lately, so of course I have to share this hack with you, because I’m guessing you’re probably as obsessed with brows as I am.

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First, you’ll need a clear brow gel, your favorite brow filler (pen, pencil, powder, whatevs) and — drumroll please — YOUR FINGERS!

Yes, fingers are the essential to this party. ?

Start by applying the clear brow gel to your naked brows. There are so numerous good brow gels out there, BTW (see: Benefit, NUDESTIX, Anastasia), but I’m using the one by MAC now because I like the hold. It gets the job done, but it doesn’t make my brows too stiff.

Don’t be shy, either. pile that ish on!

Naked brows and bare skin, ’cause that’s how we roll around these parts
Load up the clear brow gel.
Now, instead of grabbing a brow spoolie or a brush comb and running that through the gel, push your brow hairs into place with your fingers.

Yup, that’s right! simply press and maneuver the hairs exactly where you want them.

The secret is the power of fingertip pressure. ? I think it just works better than a spoolie or a brow brush.

Press those hairs!
Goofy face completely unnecessary but highly encouraged (ya need to be able to laugh at yourself, ya know?)
My strategery is to push the brow hairs in the inner half of my brow upward, and the hairs in the outer tail slightly up and out. I think that makes the brows look full, fluffy and thick.

At this point, you can proceed with the rest of your makeup while the gel sets, and then when it’s dry fill in any sparse spots in your brows with a pencil, pen or powder.

Fill them in, finish the rest of your makeup, and you’re done!
It’s weird, but when I do this with my fingers, I’m able to get away with using less brow pencil, and I think my brows typically look much more natural and less…I dunno…heavy-handed than when I use a brush or another tool?

Please note that many brow gels get stickier after setting for a minute or two, so if you’re there pushing your hairs around, and you feel the gel getting stuck here and stickier, that’s completely normal!

Off to pre-school pickup!
I hope you give this a try.

Your friendly neighborhood charm addict,

Karen

P.S. TGIF!

Sundays With Tabs the Cat, makeup as well as beauty blog Mascot, Vol. 567

Posted on October 9, 2022 by ftzys

Tabs wasn’t just material being a seafood lover. He liked fish so much that he wished to understand whatever about it. He wished to understand whatever there was to understand about fish since he liked it so much.

In fact, among his many careers, he was a sushi chef, a expert bass fisherman as well as bass fishing lure designer, a marine biologist, as well as he likewise starred, of course, in the hit Hollywood superhero movie Aquacat.

While studying for his double degrees in fashion style as well as marine biology at the university of Novato, Tabs established the world’s very first SCUBCC (self-contained underwater breathing feline collar), however it hasn’t seen the light of day (yet) since there was some drama with the estate of Jacques Cousteau…

Hopefully we get it worked out one of these days since it’ll revolutionize undersea kitty exploration as we understand it. ?

Your friendly community beauty addict,

Karen

You Can always play with the Unicorns

Posted on October 9, 2022 by ftzys

Connor is a busy, hectic bee! At some point within the last month, she went into the phase where she repeats every word she hears — from me, her dad, the TV, school.

Sometimes, it’s endearing, like when she’s discovering new words as well as phrases. (Yesterday we were bird watching, as well as she said, extremely matter-of-factly, “Let’s compose down all the observations in a notebook.”)

Other times, it’s full-on shocking.

What did you just say…?

So…in the Trader Joe’s auto parking great deal last Sunday, which regrettably is one of the locations I GO HAM since some motorists are additional nuts on the weekends, somebody rudely stole the auto parking area I was just about to pull into. Reflexively, I said, “Are you f*cking kidding me, lady?” which was complied with two seconds later by a sweet, high-pitched voice in the back seat that echoed, “Are you f*cking kidding me, lady?”

RUH ROH! Time to lock down the “colorful” language, Karen!

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Also, when Connor isn’t repeating whatever she hears, she’s stating N.O. to whatever else.

“Connor, will you please pick up your toys?”

“No.”

“Babylove, let’s go upstairs as well as get prepared for bed!”

“No.”

“Cocobaby, exactly how about we get into your cars and truck seat so we can drive you to camp?”

“NO!”

I’ve checked out that it’s a typical developmental thing around this age… young children are starting to feel independent as well as like having a sense of manage over the world around them.

Redirection: err day, all day

Because I don’t want to spend the whole day battling her or providing timeouts (Have you tried to reason with a toddler? It’s a fruitless endeavor.), when “no” happens, I do great deals as well as great deals as well as great deals of redirecting.

Like, if I say, “Connor, let’s go to the potty before we leave for ballet,” as well as she states “no,” I try different tantalizing methods to get her up the stairs, like, “Why don’t you show me exactly how you count your numbers? tell me lots of stairs it takes to get to the top!”

If she states “no” to that offer, then I may try, “How quick can you make it up the stairs? want to show mom exactly how quick you are?”

And if that likewise gets a “no,” I’ll opt for something like, “Can you walk up the stairs on your tippy toes? Can you show me exactly how to do it?”

Basically, come at it from different angles up until she states “yes” to one of them.

Then, when she’s up the stairs, I’ll utilize a similar technique to get her to the bathroom: “Want to hop like a bunny or a kangaroo to the bathroom? It’s your choice!”

And when we finally, lastly make it to the toilet, things just keep rollin’ from there. “Oh, look! We’re at the potty. Did you understand that mommy’s underpants are purple as well as have a bow? Do yours have a bow? Oh, yours are purple, too? THAT’S SO COOL! Listen, while we’re here, why don’t we have a seat on the potty? You don’t have to pee, however if you’re sitting there as well as you want to, go ideal ahead.”

Redirecting takes a great deal of patience as well as creativity, as well as tasks take 10 times longer than they would if she just did them, however gosh, it adds so much harmony to our day. Otherwise, whatever — I’m speaking whatever — is a large battle.

Anyway, it’s working for us…for now.

This is the simple stuff?

And I recognize that these things are most likely little potatoes compared to the difficulties ahead. I’m regularly reminding myself to take pleasure in this phase since it just gets harder from here.

Like, last week at her summertime school/camp, her preferred instructor as well as closest friend were both on vacation, so the very first thing she stated when I chosen her up was, “Mama, when I was at the playground today, I asked somebody to play with me as well as she stated no, so I played by myself, as well as that made me sad.”

I swear, my heart broke a little.

I didn’t understand now to respond (hello, very first time mommy here, as well as there’s no playbook). I took a few breaths as well as stated that playing by yourself can feel extremely lonely often as well as that I comprehended exactly how she felt. I stated it was so take on of her to ask somebody new to play since it takes a great deal of courage.

As we walked home, I pointed out that there’s always great deals of choices to still take pleasure in yourself at the playground if the very first person you asks states no. You can ask one more good friend to play, or making up a game to play by yourself, or pretend you’re playing with unicorns (which is my personal favorite).

She was like, “OK, mama.”

I wasn’t sure it sank in, however later that week she brought it up once again as well as said, “I understand I can go on the playground as well as ask a different good friend to play, as well as if they state no, I can always ask one more friend, as well as if they state no, I can play by myself.”

So, yeah, that’s what’s happening in young child life ideal now. In a nutshell, it’s generally me trying to get to bedtime every night without leaving any type of deep emotional scars!

Your friendly community appeal addict,

Karen